I just came across a survey that Spike Lee had supposedly given to several women in order to help formulate the character that later became Nola Darling in “SHE’S GOTTA HAVE IT” from Che Grand. I read through the survey and got very curious about what the answers to these questions would be 21 years after the original release of the film and the survey that created such a controversial character at the time. This is where you my loyal, beautiful, intelligent, open minded female readers and friends come in (Yes, I'm greasing you up, but I mean ever word), I would like you, if comfortable, to take the survey and if not comfortable having me know the answers came from you, you can post them as an anonymous commenter on my blog.
IF YOU ONLY WANT ME TO SEE YOUR ANSWERS YOU CAN E-MAIL ME AT GVG@IAMGVG.COM. YOUR ANSWERS WILL BE HELD IN THE STRICTEST CONFIDENCE TO NEVER BE READ BY ANOTHER SOUL, UNLESS EXPRESSLY REQUESTED BY YOU.
This survey is called: A.S.S. (Advanced Sexual Syndrome)
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
4. What do you look for in sex?
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
9. Are you one?
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
14. How often do you have sex?
15. Have you ever had an orgasm> How old were you? Describe it.
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
25. Does penis size matter?
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
31. What turns you off the most?
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
38. What do you find attractive in men?
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
40. What part of your body is on the money?
GVG
~we’re the warriors they write epics about~
8 comments:
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
Yes. Because some deserve a sample and others deserve the whole buffet.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
I won’t do it the first time we’re together, but as I get more comfortable with him I have no problems swallowing.
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
I hope so.
4. What do you look for in sex?
The face of god
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
The connection changes the experience.
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
Catholicism
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
Shouldn’t you ask them?
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
Someone who is willing to do it all to please themselves and their partner. The difference for me between a freak and a whore is that a whore has her business in the streets so everyone knows she’s doing everything.
9. Are you one?
What was it Adina Howard Said?
“I want to freak in the morning
A freak in the evening just like me
I need a roughneck brother
That can satisfy me just for me
If you are that kind of man
'cuz I’m that kind of girl
I got a freaky secret, everybody sing
'cause we don't give a damn about a thing”
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
Aware.
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
Text message: “Where are you?” “How soon can you get over here?”
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
Human
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
When I was younger I would feel very guilty after sex because I thought my dead relatives were looking down at me in disgust for my actions.
14. How often do you have sex?
As of late less than I masturbate. Need to do something about that soon.
15. Have you ever had an orgasm? How old were you? Describe it.
Yes. 17 He was 30ish (explanation complete)
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
Yes, but who wants the ice-cream without the syrup and whip cream.
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
Nope. A hard dick and long tongue tend to do it just fine.
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
I’m saving that conversation for the person I want to fulfill it with
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
Nope.
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
All depends on the moment. I can play both sides of the fence and enjoy them equally.
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
I make lines and cross lines. You just have to do it so well that I forgot where I put the line.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
Not as of yet.
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
What happens out the country doesn’t count.
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
If I was tempted I did it.
25. Does penis size matter?
Yes.
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
It’s 2007 and people are dying. Heck yea disease deters me.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
That’s between me and my OBGYN
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
Nope. I have given sex to those I thought loved me and learned very quickly I thought wrong.
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
Liquor. Bathroom. Friend’s not so little brother anymore. Hair pulling. Multiple orgasms. God bless that cocky youngin.
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
Without it there is no game. All the men that deal with me do.
31. What turns you off the most?
Arrogance
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
My first time with a more experienced man. I thought I did it wrong and he wouldn’t want to be with me again. I was wrong. He came back for some more of this PYT quick.
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
It’s probably the control freak in me, I love being on top. The men love my doggy style.
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
Yes. I needed to go to sleep and he just wouldn’t STOP!
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
Religious
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
Depends on what their saying and where it came from
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
Not as many as you’d think
38. What do you find attractive in men?
The eyes of a man can melt me
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
How do you OD on sex?
40. What part of your body is on the money?
I have phenomenal breast.
~Phenomenal woman
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
Before I get into this I need to note that this was a past "situation" that hasn't been the case for quite some time. I don't want it to come across that I condone unsafe sex. However, we're all human and we all have texted our boundaries from time to time...In the past there has been one man that I have allowed to "hit it" raw...Why? For some reason I'm super comfortable with him. Pan to years later when I'm ravaged with all kinds of "nasty womans diseases" but for some strange reason there's a trust that we shared that didn't exist with anyone else. It's kinda silly I know but I do realize it was a risk that I consciously decided to take.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates? I have never swallowed and it's not something that I've been interested in. That may change in the future but I was just always grossed out by the site and thought of man juice anywhere near my mouth or any other part of my face...I don't care how rich in protein said spunk is...
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you? I'm a hopelessly hopeful romantic so I'd like to think that in time all my desires will be fulfilled by one person.
4. What do you look for in sex? It depends on my mood really. Sometimes I like it soft, sensual and seductive. Other times I like it rough, rugged and riDICKulous
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so? Making love is when there's a mutual emotional attachment of some sort. Sex is just straight up for the sport of it...I used to think that I could engage in sex with randoms here and there but as a part of my own personal growth I realize that I definitely need some sort of emotional and mental connection...otherwise it'll be a wasted of my time...
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
It took me a while to get comfortable with giving oral sex, receiving oral sex and on a seperate note, being with women. (I'll save the deets on that for your next survey...)
7. Do you think you are sexually adept? Everybody is different in terms of what they like but although it may take a few minutes I'm usuually very quick about finding out who likes what, where and how...
8. What would you consider a freak? Why? A freak is someone who will try almost anything once...
9. Are you one? I haven't tried everything so I'd have to say no.
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain. I get tense, and I tend to lash out at those undeserved of my wrath...lol
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it? It's not the same but thank the heavens for masturbation.
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates? I think a woman who masturbates is one willing to take her needs and desires into her own hands...pun intended!
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need? Not usually..
14. How often do you have sex? Depends really. But not nearly as often as I'd like...
15. Have you ever had an orgasm> How old were you? Describe it. I'm one of the few woman blessed to be able to have orgasms all the time. My first time I had sex I had an amazing orgasm which, when I think about it to this day, still gives me chills. I was 16 years old and it was with this guy I always had a crush on. We were in a cave and we were standing up. He inserted himself into me and began to stroke back and forth. A few minutes later I felt a rush like I'd never felt before. It was as if my entire body was silently vibrating whilst an extreme euphoria took control over my every movement. Ahhhh...to be 16 again...
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm? Back in the day I used to only have sex to achieve an orgasm but in my later years I realize that ther's more to sex than an orgasm. Actually, I haven't had an orgasm (with another person) in months but I've had killer sex. Dare I say...even better than having an orgasm. But again, it could be because it's girl on girl...
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films? Definitely not.
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy. Menage a trois, baby...in any combination...:)
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs?? Basically. There just different kinds of dogs.
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control? Depends on my mood but I like both scenarios.
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
Hmmm...maybe. Although I don't think I've reached it yet.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it? This is a trick question, right. Dogs love everything, no?!!
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios? No but you can refer to answer 15.
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman? I think you know the answer to that one already...
25. Does penis size matter? I used to think that it wasn't about the size of the boat but more about the motion in the ocean...until I experienced an angry inch. Although this gentleman was a great kisser and extremely skilled in giving oral pleasure his penis was the smallest thing i've ever seen. Think diner size salt shaker...and yes, it was hard. AWFUL! I need something to work with...
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you? Yes it does.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets? Hmmm...not counting each one it's probably around 20 or so. I regret a few but only because i had no connection with them other than to just fuck for the sake of fucking.
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it? Never looked for love through sex. Only few are privileged to find it that way and I don't think I'm one of them...
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
It was emotional, passionate, sensual, climactic and everything that makes life worth living...it was with a woman and that's all you need to know for this survey...:)
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it? I love foreplay. I've found that most men are into it.
31. What turns you off the most? I hate when guys expect sex!!! Huge turnoff for me and even if I'm horny as hell I'm not giving it up under those circumstances.
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why? I recall having sex with a guy and then feeling used afterward...almost as if I was the default selection.
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most? Doggy and doggy...HOLLA.
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it? Refer to answer 15. Not necessary for me to fake...:)
35. Were you raised in a strict home? Yup. Jehovah's Witness. Imagine...
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc? I can say that I don't like labels but who wants to be labeled as being loose?
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited? Not in my travels...
38. What do you find attractive in men? I love broad shoulders and a strong back and big hands and strong thighs
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex? Unfortunately not but I would like to...:)
40. What part of your body is on the money? I tend to get alot of ass compliments...
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
Yep, you get as much as I think you deserve, and that’s true for all facets of life.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
There would have to be a lifetime commitment, total satisfaction, and security.
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
Never know…
4. What do you look for in sex?
The same thing I look for when I get my car waxed:
Don’t rub too hard, or you’ll leave swirl marks.
Don’t miss a spot, cause’ it’ll show later.
Pay extra attention to the areas that aren’t readily visible to the naked eye, or the job will just look half assed in the end.
PACE yourself because you WILL reach your peak too early, and burn out.
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
Making love, for me, is everything that happens in the weeks or months before sex does.
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
There isn’t anything that can’t be overcome with a little Vino ;-)
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
Quite adept…quite adept indeed.
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
I guess it would be anyone who’s sexually deviant, but what’s considered deviant nowadays? Tossing salad would still be considered freak behavior though, but only if you really, really enjoy doing it.
9. Are you one?
I’m on the fence. No salad, but might like some tea every now and then.
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
Evil, evil, evil. I have no patience!!
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
I say, ‘I’m horny and I’m coming over.’
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
May be a better question to ask what I think about those who DON’T masturbate.
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
All the damn time! That’s where the whole ‘on the fence’ thing comes in.
14. How often do you have sex?
At least 4x/month…November has been slower though…damn job and school.
15. Have you ever had an orgasm> How old were you? Describe it.
Yup, and everyone should run and exercise to make them bigger and stronger, just like milk for bones.
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
Oh absolutely, as long as everything else seems worth the sacrifice.
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
Not always, but they don’t hurt (sin drugs).
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
They’re all corny, trust me.
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
‘All’ statements are usually false. There are almost always exceptions.
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
I have to dominate for most of the day, so at night, I don’t want any control. I get turned off when men want to dominate everywhere but the bedroom. I guess the gender roles are becoming blurred somehow.
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
Of course, everyone can’t get the same treatment, and you ALWAYS have to keep something for yourself. Maybe if I had a crack addiction, then I’d have no limits.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
Yep, once, and I will NEVER make that request again…trust.
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
Negative. I can’t waist the little energy I manage to save up for sex on two people, and I’m waaaay too selfish.
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
No, I think we’d just cancel each other out. Two positives or negatives ALWAYS repel.
25. Does penis size matter?
Yes. You either have to really, really love the man who has a small penis, or kind of like the man with a larger one. Fcuk whatcha’ heard, it matters.
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
Pregnancy deterred me as a teen, and now disease AND pregnancy deter me as an adult.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
Does it matter? I have three regrets…damn shame.
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
I wasn’t even looking for love outside of sex. Stuff like that just has to happen naturally.
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
Fruits, music, scented candles, etc. All senses stimulated, and satisfied.
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
Yeah, but too much gets me bored and blah. The older I get, the longer the foreplay has become.
31. What turns you off the most?
More than anything, a pretentious partner.
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
Probably when I was much younger, much, much younger, cause’ I was younger, and it comes with the territory.
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
Men like giving backshots. I like missionary (dominated).
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
Negative. Who would benefit in the long run?
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
Yes. Only dancehall reggae artists acknowledge that Jamaicans have sex. Jamaican parents pretend sex is only for the whoring and touring.
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
I’m near 30, so no. I’ve pretty much succeeded at keeping people in a position where I can tell them to kiss my ass. Thanks Mom
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
A lot of men are too concerned with being extraordinary in bed, so much so that they don’t pay attention to what a woman likes, and instead do what they think she should like. Some men are able to just live in the moment and go with the flow. They make the best lovers, and seem less inhibited. There’s a certain freedom that goes along with a lack of inhibition, no?
38. What do you find attractive in men?
Stable employment, pride in oneself and ambition, selflessness.
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
Nah, and if I did, I must have been too inebriated.
40. What part of your body is on the money?
My ass :-D …growing with age, just like my self esteem.
L8r,
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
NOT INTENTIONALLY, BUT I'VE BEEN GUILTY OF THAT. THERE
ARE JUST SOME MEN WHO CAN BRING SOMETHING OUT OF A WOMAN
THAT MAYBE ANOTHER MAN CAN'T. DOESN'T MAKE ANY OF THEM
BETTER OR WORST, JUST DIFFERENT.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
YES.
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
FOR SURE
4. What do you look for in sex?
A TRUE CONNECTION, TRUE AFFECTION, PASSION, SPONTANEITY,
ADVENTURE, VARIETY and ultimately SATISFACTION.
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
HELL YES. WHEN HAVING SEX (aka F*CKING or SCREWING), IT'S NOTHING BUT THE ACT OF SEX...YOU GET PHYSICAL PLEASURE and THEN YOU RELEASE (hopefully...lol), THEN YOU GET THE F*CK OUT...LOL BUT WHEN MAKING LOVE, SOULS COME TOGETHER and A TRUE AWARENESS OF TAKING CARE OF ONE ANOTHER AND EACH'S NEEDS COMES INTO PLAY. THERE'S AFFECTION, COMPASSION, UNYIELDING EFFORTS TO PLEASE, and THE SECURITY OF KNOWING THAT YOU BELONG TO ONE ANOTHER. TO ME, BESIDES THE OBVIOUS, MAKING LOVE IS MUCH BETTER BECAUSE YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR PARTNER AND YOU'LL BE MORE OPEN TO DO ANY and EVERYTHING, but WITH JUST SEX, YOU'RE ALWAYS WONDERING AM I GOOD ENOUGH, WILL HE THINK I'M A SLUT, WILL SHE THINK I DIDN'T LAST LONG ENOUGH and WHOLE BUNCH OF OTHER STUFF THAT YOU'LL QUESTION. MAKING LOVE RELIEVES YOU OF QUESIONS because YOU'LL ALREADY BE SECURE IN YOURSELF and YOUR PARTNER.
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
GIVING FELLATIO and HAVING SEX WITH THE LIGHTS ON.
THAT WAS A LONG TIME AGO...LOL
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
YUP!!!
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
BASICALLY SOME ONE WHO IS OPEN TO DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING.
FREAK IS DEFINITELY NOT A BAD WORD ;-)
9. Are you one?
SORT OF. I'M VERY UNINHIBITED, BUT THERE ARE TWO THINGS
I DON'T DO (THREESOMES and ANAL)
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
IF IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME...IRRITABLE...LOL
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
IT DEPENDS ON THE CIRCUMSTANCE. SOMETIMES IT'S JUST
MIND OVER MATTER AND THE FEELING WILL PASS. IF I HAVE A
MAN IN MY LIFE, I'LL MAKE A POINT TO SEE HIM. THEN
IF IT JUST GETS THAT BAD, THERE'S ALWAYS ALONE TIME ;-)
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
I USED TO BE CONFLICTED BECAUSE OF MY RELIGIOUS UPBRINGING, BUT NOW I'M LIKE MORE POWER TO US...lol SOMETIMES IT'S NOT EVEN ABOUT A SEXUAL SATISFACTION, IT LITERALLY HURTS AFTER AWHILE IF A WOMAN DOESN'T RELEASE. IT ALSO EDUCATES. MASTERBATING HELPS HER TO UNDERSTAND HER BODY BETTER AND WHAT SHE LIKES and SHE CAN BETTER EXPRESS THAT WHEN THE TIME COMES FOR HER TO HAVE SEX WITH THE MAN SHE'S WITH and I DON'T KNOW ONE MAN WHO ISN'T IMPRESSED and EVEN TURNED ON BY A WOMAN WHO KNOWS WHAT SHE LIKES. I'VE PERSONALLY GOTTEN BORED WITH MASTERBATION. I PREFER BEING WITH A MAN.
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
THEY USED TO BECAUSE I USED TO WANT TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY and NOT BE LOOKED AT AS JUST A SEX OBJECT while STILL FEELING HORNY, SO I'D SEEM VERY UNSURE OF MYSELF AT TIMES WITH MEN THAT WASN'T "MY MAN" BECAUSE THEY COULD SENSE THAT PHYSICALLY I WANTED IT, BUT I WOULDN'T GO FOR IT FOR FEAR OF NOT BEING TAKEN SERIOUSLY OR NOT GETTING WHAT I WANTED IN THE END (THE MAN, NOT JUST HIS SEX). NOW...PLEASE, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I WANT AND I HAVE NO PROBLEMS HOLDING OUT TO GET IT. I WANT A FULL PACKAGE, NOT JUST SEX, SO IF THAT MEANS I HAVE TO GO WITHOUT SEX FOR AWHILE, THAN SO BE IT, BUT I'LL NEVER AGAIN COMPROMISE WITH WHAT I WANT, ESPECIALLY JUST TO MAKE A GUY HAPPY. THE GUY WILL BE HAPPY FOR THE MOMENT and THE NEXT MOMENT, KICKING THE WOMAN'S A** TO THE CURB. WOMEN PUT YOU AND YOUR LONG TERM GOALS FIRST.
14. How often do you have sex?
NOT OFTEN ENOUGH...LOL I MEAN GETTING SEX IS NEVER
EVER A PROBLEM, BUT AGAIN I DON'T WANT JUST SEX. ONCE
I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP, IT'S NO HOLDS BARRED.
15. Have you ever had an orgasm> How old were you? Describe it.
YES INDEED I'VE HAD AN ORGASM OR TWO OR THREE OR
FOUR...LOL I WAS 19 WHEN I HAD MY FIRST ONE. THE GUY
GAVE ME ORAL SEX (I WAS AN INTERCOURSE VIRGIN UNTIL
21). I HAD MY FIRST FULL FLEDGED ORGASM AT 22. TOO
LONG TO DESCRIBE...LOL
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
ONLY IF I'M WITH A MAN I LOVE, BECAUSE SOME TIMES THERE
ARE JUST THOSE NOT SO GOOD NIGHTS, BUT I STILL ENJOY THE
FEELING OF BEING WITH MY MAN, BUT I CAN'T DEAL WITH
CONSISTENTLY BAD SEX or CAN'T CONSISTENTLY BE WITH A MAN
WHO DOESN'T EITHER REALIZE HE HASN'T GIVEN ME AN ORGASM
or FLAT OUT DOESN'T CARE IF HE GAVE ME ONE OR NOT.
THERE IS ONLY ONE MAN I HAVE EVER HAD THAT WAS
ALLLLLLWAYS ON POINT NO MATTER what...NO MATTER WHEN.
DAMN I MISS HIM...LOL
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
NOPE, NOT AT ALL ;-)
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
BASICALLY JUST ALWAYS WANTING TO GO ON A ROMANTIC
GETAWAY WITH A GUY. SEXUALLY...NOT MUCH I HAVEN'T
ALREADY TRIED...LOL, BUT I'M OPEN FOR NEW THINGS ;-)
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
NO COMMENT
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
BOTH
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
NOT REALLY. AGAIN, JUST DON'T BRING ANY EXTRA WOMEN or
TRY TO POKE MY BEHIND.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
NOPE, MOST OF THE MEN I WAS WITH WERE GOOD, THE ONES WHO
WEREN'T DIDN'T LAST LONG ;-)
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
AGAIN...NOPE
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
NOPE. I THINK WE WOMEN WERE CREATED TO BE SEXY BEINGS
AND I ADMIRE WOMEN, BUT I DON'T WANT TO TOUCH THEM OR
THEM TOUCH ME. TO EACH HER OWN AND I DON'T KNOCK WHAT
OTHERS DO, BUT THAT AIN'T ME. IN THE WORDS OF FRANKIE
FROM SET IT OFF..."I'M STRICTLY D*CKLY".
25. Does penis size matter?
YES, BUT THE MAN ALSO HAS TO KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH THAT PENIS. I HAD A GUY ONCE WHO WAS HUGE. WHEN I SAW IT, I WAS LIKE A KID WITH A NEW TOY, HOWEVER THE TOY DIDN'T WORK. HE WAS HORRIBLE IN BED. ALL THAT EQUIPMENT GONE TO WASTE :-..
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
NO. I PRACTICE SAFE SEX AND NOW A DAYS, I'LL EVEN ASK
A GUY TO PRODUCE AIDS TEST RESULTS. IF HE GETS OFFENDED
OR HAS A PROBLEM, THEN HE'S NOT THE ONE FOR ME ANYWAY.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
YOU NOSEY....LOL LET'S JUST SAY, I'VE HAD VARIETY. I
DON'T LIKE THE WORD REGRET, BUT I CAN SAY I DO HAVE
REGRETS FOR DIFFERENT REASONS DEPENDING ON THE GUY I
REGRET BEING WITH.
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
NO, I DIDN'T LOOK FOR LOVE THROUGH SEX, BUT I HAVE FOUND
LOVE THROUGH SEX, BUT IT DIDN'T ALWAYS FIND ME BACK, SO
NOW I'M STERN ABOUT FINDING LOVE BEFORE SEX OR AT LEAST
FEELING SECURE WITH THE GUY BEFORE LAYING MY BODY DOWN
WITH HIM. CALL ME OLD FASHION BUT I KNOW WHAT HAS
WORKED AND WHAT HASN'T WORKED FOR ME.
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
GEEZ...THAT'S HARD. CAN'T NAME JUST ONE.
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
I LOOOOVE FOREPLAY. NO, NOT ENOUGH MEN DO IT OR THERE
ARE THOSE WHO TRY BUT ARE NOT GOOD AT IT.
31. What turns you off the most?
A GUY THAT'S TOO BUSY TRYING TO PERFORM RATHER TRYING TO
CONNECT. I HAD A GUY ONCE WHO MUST HAVE TAKEN PORNO
101, BECAUSE EVERYTHING HE WAS DOING OR TRYING TO DO WAS
STRAIGHT OUT OF A PORNO AND IT MIGHT HAVE TURNED ME ON,
BUT HE WAS SOOOOO CORNY ABOUT IT. I HAD TO JUST STOP
IT, BECAUSE IT WAS REALLY GETTING ON MY NERVES...LOL
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
NO NOT REALLY. FROM THE TIME I STARTED HAVING SEX, I'VE
ALWAYS ENJOYED IT, SO I WAS NEVER TIMID OR CONCERNED
THAT I DIDN'T PERFORM WELL. IF I DIDN'T DO WELL, I
NEVER KNEW IT BECAUSE THE GUY NEVER TOLD ME AND I'VE
NEVER HAD GUY WHO DIDN'T COME BACK FOR 2NDS OR 3RDS OR
4THS ;-)
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
MY FAVORITE POSITION?...THAT'S EASY, I LOVE BEING ON TOP OF A GUY SITTING STRAIGHT UP IN A HARD BACK CHAIR. DAMN, I'M GETTING EXCITED JUST THINKING ABOUT IT...LOL IF I DO IT FACING HIM, IT ALLOWS ME TO BE IN CONTROL WHILE STILL BEING ABLE TO BE CLOSE AND CONNECTED WITH THE GUY. IF I DO IT WITH MY BACK TO HIM, IT STILL ALLOWS ME TO BE IN CONTROL WHILE THE GUY CAN GET A VISUAL OF MY BACK and MY A** (BECAUSE THAT'S ONE THING A BLACK MAN LOVES IS TO LOOK AT IS A**). TO ME SITTING STRAIGHT UP HAS ONE OF THE BEST SENSATIONS EVER BECAUSE THE CLITORIS GETS STIMULATED FROM THE FRICTION AND A WOMAN CAN CONTROL IF AND HOW THE PENIS WILL HIT HER G-SPOT, PLUS IT GIVES THE GUY THE ABILITY TO PLAY WITH HER BREASTS (YES, I KNOW SOME BLACK MEN ARE NOT BREASTS MEN, BUT MEN...WE LIKE BEING TOUCHED THERE, SO GET WITH IT...LOL) AND THAT POSITION ALLOWS FACE TO FACE CONTACT FOR THOSE WHO KISSERS DURING SEX. I JUST LOVE THAT DAMN POSITION...LOL
OH...MY BAD, WHAT DO I FIND MEN LIKE?...EVERY MAN LOVES TO HIT IT FROM BEHIND OR ANY POSITION THAT MAKES HER TIGHTER WHILE HE'S INSIDE.
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
IN THE BEGINNING NO. IF I DIDN'T LIKE IT, I'D POLITELY LET HIM KNOW IT OR I'D JUST STAY SILENT SO HE'D GET THE POINT. BUT OVERTIME, I HAVE FAKED MAINLY BECAUSE THE GUY MAY NOT HAVE BEEN GOOD, BUT HE WAS SO EAGER TO MAKE ME HAVE AN ORGASM THAT HE WOULDN'T STOP UNTIL I DID, SO I'D FAKE IT JUST TO GET THAT GUY OFF OF ME...LOL
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
NO, NOT REALLY. I MEAN MOMS DIDN'T PLAY, BUT SHE WAS
ALSO OPEN ENOUGH TO TALK TO ME IF I HAD QUESTIONS.
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
I CAN'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT ME. I TRY
TO CARRY MYSELF A CERTAIN WAY SO THAT NO LABELS WILL BE
PLACED ON ME, BUT I DON'T LIKE PEOPLE LABELING ME AS
SOMETHING THAT I'M NOT. AT THE END OF THE DAY I CAN'T
WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK. I'M A GROWN A** WOMAN ;-)
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
LMAO...IS THAT A REAL QUESTION? HELL NO. I WILL SAY
THERE ARE MEN WHO ARE FOREPLAY INHIBITED, WHO ARE LOVE
AND LOVE MAKING INHIBITED, AND EVEN EMOTIONALLY
INHIBITED BECAUSE THEY'RE PROBABLY JADED FROM SOMEONE IN
THEIR PAST.
38. What do you find attractive in men?
SWAGGER!!! HOW HE GROOMS HIMSELF, HOW HE WALKS, HOW HE
TALKS. A GENTLEMAN WHO IS RESPECTFUL. HIS DRIVE, HIS
ATTITUDE, HIS PASSION, HIS CONFIDENCE, HIS COMPASSION,
HIS LISTENING SKILLS, HIS COMMUNICATION SKILLS.
A MAN THAT'S A MAN'S MAN.
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
YEAH...I CAN'T LIE. AGAIN, WHEN I KNOW I HAVE A MAN IN
MY LIFE, IT'S NO HOLDS BARRED...LOL IS 8 TIMES IN A SIX
HOUR TIME PERIOD OD'ing...LOL
40. What part of your body is on the money?
LMAO. HARD TO SAY. I'VE BEEN TOLD I'M A PRETTY GOOD
PACKGE ;-)
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
Yes. The acts are regulated by my level of comfort and connection.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
Not an aversion but I haven't done it...yet
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
No. We are insatiable beings. Variety is what satiates.
4. What do you look for in sex?
Orgasms or orgasmic feelings.
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
Yes. Making love is more intimate. Each caress is accompanied by a feeling that is beyond physical. Sex is superficial but damn good...hollah!
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
Walking around naked. Throwing lips to the shi$! like a real bit$#~...Thanks Lil Kim
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
Yes but could always improve.
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
A freak is willing to go beyond the "normal " realm of relations.
9. Are you one?
yes (based on that definition)
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
Sexy as hell. I get turned on by myself.
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
Make a phone call or get on ichat (technology is awesome)
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
get it!!!
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
No.
14. How often do you have sex?
Single. On a 1x a month plan.
15. Have you ever had an orgasm> How old were you? Describe it.
Yes. Cant remember how old. It felt like I lost control of what I don't. Euphoria.
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
Yes.
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
No. But wine helps me to lose some inhibitions.
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
Menage et tois (did I spell that right)
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
Yes. They pee on the street.
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
Both.
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
No animals or children.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
No.
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
No.
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
Yes.
25. Does penis size matter?
Yes. Width.
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
Yes. I take the necessary precautions.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
8. No regrets
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
No.
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
Sex after a 5 year hiatus with a younger man after a night at the club. He was from a frat that took their tongue olympics seriously.
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
Yes I enjoy. Sometimes its too much and i just want to get to it.
31. What turns you off the most?
Balls. They scare me. I need to get over it.
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
No.
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
Riding on a chair. I think men like hitting it from the back while lying down ( at least with me they do)
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
No.
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
No.
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
Yes.
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
No.
38. What do you find attractive in men?
A sense of humor and social skills.
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
No...I wish..lol
40. What part of your body is on the money?
The actual shape is what's poppin.
J
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
Um. I don't have sex with a man until I feel like I could do anything I'm ready for with him. The more life I expereince and the more comfortable I have become with my sexuality, I've been more open to new acts. The next man would likely get all that I do now, plus whatever I'm open to explore then.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
Yes.
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
One man satisfies me now. I'm a one-man woman.
4. What do you look for in sex?
An orgasm that starts at my toes.
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
Yes, making love is emotional. Sex is physical.
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
Giving head; sex at messy times
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
In certain positions. Not so great at head but I'm learning. I have a good teacher.
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
A chick who's up for just anything, anytime.
9. Are you one?
I aspire to be for my man.
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
Horny. Unfocused. Very aware of my vagina. (I'm usually not.)
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
Text my man. Otherwise watch a good flick and break out The Rabbit
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
Good for her. She knows how she likes it.
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
Um. When I was single for a long time, I was very conflicted about calling someone to help with my needs. I like to be in a relationship when I'm having sex. I like there to be more to a situation than just sex. I eventually asked a friend to help and he was happy to do so. It was a nice, albeiet brief, arrangement. I am eternally greatful for what he provided.
14. How often do you have sex?
I thought it was 2-3x a week; I was just informed it was only 1x. i'm going to up the quota as soon
as i finish posting this.
15. Have you ever had an orgasm? How old were you? Describe it.
Yes. 18. Everything from below my belly button to the top of my thighs got this intense, tight feeling, then this beautiful release. it was just power radiating from my pussy, then intesne throbbing. it's a great feeling.
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
Yes... but I prefer to bust a nut.
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
no. but a little porn before doesn't hurt on occassion. gives new ideas.
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
maybe sex in the kitchen? or in a public bathroom?
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
not at all.
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
depends on the day and the type of dirty talk. normally, i like to be dominated but every once in awhile i like to take control.
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
yes. like he's not peeing on me. anal is out of the question still. i don't have any other "rules" per se. i just call it to a halt if something's taking place that makes me uncomfy.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
Yes. My ex saw me as a "Wifey" and only wanted to do it missionary and in the bed.
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
no. no desire to. though i will admit that watching 2 girls and a guy turns me on.
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
i thought about it college, but um... women don't do it for me. i like a strong, broad back.
25. Does penis size matter?
nah. if he can work it and throw his back into it, i'm good. the guy i dated with the biggest rod didn't use it that well.
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
uh, yeah. sex can kill and burn. it's not to be taken lightly.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
my official answer: i can count my number on one hand.
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
i had sex with a man who was bad for me (i loved him, knew on some level he didn't feel the same) but i did it not becuase i wanted him to love me, but because i liked the emotional feeling i got when we were together. i found it when he was inside me. it was over as soon as i came.
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
I squirted once. I cried after because it scared me. It's not my favorite encounter (that would be this one time with Stitch when we made slow love and he stayed on my spot for 20 minutes until he was ready to make me cum), just the one that stands out
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
sometimes. i'm good for stopping someone who is doing a great job to say "honey, i want dick now." Yeah, men know that's what women like. I've never dated a man who didn't a least give me a lick before he headed to the love tunnel.
31. What turns you off the most?
Men who can't kiss. I can't do you if I can't kiss you.
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
Yeah. I've felt so empty I cried. I immediately know the truth about someone once he's inside me-- ie, if he's full of shit or not. it's a real honest moment. youc an't lie to yourself about someone when he is in you.
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
Missionary. I like the weight of a man on top of me. Um, do men care as long as they are inside?
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
Yes. it was wack. he was having an off-night. I needed him to just stop, and being the gentleman that he was, he believed in ladies' first.
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
Nah. not really. sex was hardly discussed.
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
Depends on who's labeling me. Someone who's opinion matters to me? Yes. But that probably wouldn't make me switch up.
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
Nah. Men are down for whatever. Society raises them to be such.
38. What do you find attractive in men?
Clean man scent, broad noses, nice smiles, height, confidence, solid arms and chests don't hurt.
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
7x, 1 weekend. I missed him.
40. What part of your body is on the money?
legs
1. Are there any sexual acts you perform with one man and not another? Why?
Definitely. Not every man deserves the opportunity of complete uninhibition by the woman he is with.
2. Do you have an aversion to swallowing when a man ejaculates?
Not with the current life partner I am with.
3. Do you think in time one man will satisfy you?
Of course.
4. What do you look for in sex?
More than just a physical connection. Getting pleased on every level imaginable.
5. Is making love different than sex? Why if so?
Very different. Sex can be done without involving emotion. There has to be emotion involved to make love. Making love comes with foreplay and cuddling after. Sex not so much.
6. Name some inhibitions you had to overcome.
Performing fellatio.
7. Do you think you are sexually adept?
I think so.
8. What would you consider a freak? Why?
Someone who is willing to do just about anything in the bedroom with his/her partner. The difference for me between a freak and a whore is a whore will do anything with everybody. A freak can just be a freak for that one special person. :)
9. Are you one?
Now. Most definitely. :)
10. What do you feel when you have to have it? Tense? Evil? Explain.
Probably tense.
11. When ya gotta have it, how do you get it?
Speak with the eyes. Enough said.
12. What do you think about a woman that masturbates?
Don't all women?
13. Do your morals or scruples sometimes conflict with desire/need?
Not at all.
14. How often do you have sex?
It depends on the time of month. Probably an average of 4-5 times a week.
15. Have you ever had an orgasm> How old were you? Describe it.
All the time. It's almost indescribable. One of the best physical feelings in the world!
16. Can you enjoy sex without an orgasm?
Yes because I enjoy seeing him enjoying me.
17. Do you need outside stimuli to get yourself ready, i.e., drugs, alcohol, magazines, porno films?
Don't need it. But often time good weed and alcohol are preferred.
18. Talk about one unfulfilled fantasy.
Honestly there isn't one.
19. Do you feel all men are basically dogs??
Not at all!
20. Do you like to be dominated, or yourself take control?
Depends on my mood. I like control but so does he.
21. Is there a limit to what you'll do? How far will you go?
Not really. So long as there are no other people involved at this point anything goes.
22. Have you ever made a request to a man that he declined? What was it?
No. Most men don't decline much when it comes to sex.
23. Have you ever had a ménage a trios?
Yes.
24. Where you ever tempted to go to bed with a woman?
Not even once.
25. Does penis size matter?
Yes.
26. Does the threat of pregnancy or disease deter you?
Not at this point.
27. Approx. how many men have you had? Any regrets?
Voluntarily or involuntarily? Actually the number is more than I'd like to remember. Plenty of regrets.
28. Have you ever looked for love through sex? Why? Did you find it?
Never. I never "made love" to anyone before the person I am with now.
29. Describe your most memorable encounter.
Way too many. It's memorable when we're both too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep naked holding each other afterwards. No towel. Nada.
30. Do you like foreplay? Do enough men do it?
Sometimes foreplay can last too long and it becomes too much of a tease. So no, I'm not really big on foreplay.
31. What turns you off the most?
Odor. There's nothing like sex straight out of the shower.
32. Have you ever had low self esteem after sex? Why?
Yes. Because of the reason for doing it.
33. What's your favorite position? What do you find men like most?
Being on top. The orgasm is the best that way. I find that most men like having the legs wrapped around the neck while the back is arched.
34. Have you ever lied or faked an orgasm (moans, groans) to please your partner? Why did you do it?
No. Fortunately never had to. He almost always ensures I reach orgasm first. I usually do anyway.
35. Were you raised in a strict home?
No.
36. Do you care if people put labels on you - loose, etc?
I rarely care what people think.
37. Do you find a lot of men sexually inhibited?
Definitely.
38. What do you find attractive in men?
Physically attractive? So much. Eyes and smile are huge for me. Physique comes next. I like a nice toned well built man. One in particular.
39. Have you ever OD'd on sex?
Yes.
40. What part of your body is on the money?
Most of it actually. I work hard to keep it looking right.
Yo, my ex follows my blog trail....if he reads this, I'm gonna be ignoring a lot of phone calls.....
1. Yes, because I feel more comfortable with different people.
2. Depends on the person.
3. Yes.
4. Pleasure and a connection.
5. Yes. Sex is the physical act. "Making love" (although I hate the term) has to do with an emotional connection.
6.Swallowing, finger grazing the asshole (lol)
7. not yet
8. me...lol. Open minded (sorry no anal...ever...or 3somes. Am I still a freak?)
9. yes.
10. Giddy, mischievous, anxious.
11. Call up my buddy (one of my bffs). regardless of his relationship status. See, that's the mischievous part...
12. I don't. Rather the man do it. I'm lazy and somehow I feel like my mom is watching me...lol
13.YES! No fornication...ummm about that.... Hey you learn to get over trained guilt.
14. During the good days: 3x a week. Bad times (living the single non-promiscuous life): once (lucky if twice a week) Preference: 4-5x/week
15. YES!!!! 21!!! after 3 LOOONG YEARS!!!! Surprising!!! Worth the wait! EXCITING! Couldn't stop saying thank you! Couldn't stop laughing and smiling! Two words: female ejaculation....
16. Yes. I do often.
17. nope!
18. He'd just come home and eat me out for like 30 minutes (the way I like it, which is a lil complicated lol) and then he would do however he wanted... (something like i give you a lil something and now I can do with you what I will.)
19. no - they all have potential tho.
20. DOMINATE ME PLEASE! sexiest thing. BUUUT! There are days when it's all me and my way! Love those too...hmmm come to think of it..i go through phases... like 4 months...I'm on top, next 4 you control...lol jk...guess I do alternate tho
21. Yes. no anal, no 3somes.
22. Nope.
23. nope.
24. maybe.....
25. yes!!!!
26. yes!
27. 3. no
28. yes and yes. it was a friends with benefits thing that progressed .
29. We were talking on his bed about our lives, laughing joking, bearing our souls. He was laying on his side, facing me and i was perpendicular to him with my legs over his waste...and then you know what happened. That position is just super and I think that's when we knew we officially crossed the lines as just friends.
30. There are days when I do...days when I don't.
31. A selfish man. GRRRR!
32. Did I ever wonder why he needs more than one? yes. Low self-esteem, if only for a fleeting millisecond. But that's what happens when you sleep with taken men!
33. The one described in 29 and when i lay on back on the edge of the bed and he stands and does his thing, moving my legs or w/e. Men like it when I am on top. 'Cause I'm amazing!!! DUH!!!
34. no. if it was bad...you will know it. If I lie, how will you improve?
35. The strictest!
36. Yes.
37. no....do you?
38. how he thinks, lips, eyes, smile, arms, ass, and legs. in that order. Then later maybe his mini me...
39. yes. 2 weeks, twice a day...i was hurting...didn't do it for 2 months...
40. lips and tits. Oh and the eyes...of course.
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